Sometimes, yes. Sometimes, no.
I know that is not a satisfying answer. My husband is actually pretty good-looking. Tall and broad with beautiful grey eyes and most of his hair. I still love looking at him in a dress shirt coming home from work. My man rocks a button-down.
Too…
I’ve been on the prowl for a long time. Six years. I’ve seen affairs get off the ground and others that stalled miserably.
Why? It could be a mismatch sexually or lack of chemistry or schedules not aligning. Or anything, really. One wrong text and it goes kapoof! …
The despicable’s. Cheaters are the lowest of the low.
“I would NEVER cheat.”
“What were they thinking?”
“How could they do that?”
This stage is marked by profound puzzlement at the decisions of fellow men. Adultery is NOT an option. That’s a dirty word.
“I’ll never cheat,” you proclaim too…
I had been on r/deadbedrooms on Reddit for two years. Over 321,271 thousand members all swirling the drain of a sexless relationship.
Finally, I wasn’t alone with my shame.
I wasn’t desirable enough. I wasn’t skinny, young, fit, _____ fill in your adjective of choice enough. …
On my birthday, I decided to do an “about me.” So quaint, I thought. All these nice writers telling the 100 million average monthly readers about themselves in earnest tones. Why they are special. Why they write. Why we should read them.
Nope. Not me.
This is the ANTI version…
Lingerie.
Those bits of clothing or non-clothing spur the imagination of many a man. And fuel regret. Especially on r/deadbedrooms where desire has been short-circuited permanently.
No flipping that switch.
“My wife told me a few years ago that we didn’t have sex because she didn’t have anything to wear…
Another survey from Ashley Madison in my super secret inbox. “We want to hear your thoughts on a variety of topics,” the email said. Sure, I thought. These are always good for shits and giggles.
How much do you tell your lover in an affair?
As little as possible, I’ve learned. Let’s just say through trial and error.
They don’t know my real name until I feel comfortable, and that could be months into the affair. They don’t know where I live exactly. They don’t…
Anyone who’s had an affair knows the drill.
Thanksgiving. Christmas. New Year’s. Valentine’s Day. Easter. What have you…it could be any freaking holiday of choice.
Low contact.
“You know I can’t text.”
“Yeah…”
“Family time.”
I have a family, too, dude. I love them (I’m not quite as callous as…
Amy Sea’s list in Crows Feet about what she likes about being 50, lit some spark in my spirit and I just had to share my own list. Some of her points were so spot on, I used them verbatim. She was gracious enough to allow me.
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