Tell the Scarlett Letter your secrets — “She had not known the weight until she felt the freedom.” ― Nathaniel Hawthorne, The Scarlet Letter It’s a new year. A new you. Let go of your secrets. Tell them to me. I know I felt the freedom once I started writing about my secret life. It was a huge weight lifted. …

The Do’s and Don’ts — Writing a profile for an affair? I’m looking for a lover. I can help you. It takes quite a bit to get noticed as a guy. Let me guess, you’d like hot sex, some romance, clever conversation, warmth and caring with a sexy lady. Is that too much to ask for? YES. It’s a tall order. Believe me. The odds are not in your favor. Many more men looking than women. It’s the way of adultery. The women who are fucking out of…

Revealing as little as possible… — On my birthday, I decided to do an “about me.” So quaint, I thought. All these nice writers telling the 100 million average monthly readers about themselves in earnest tones. Why they are special. Why they write. Why we should read them. Nope. Not me. This is the ANTI version…

The path of extramarital fornication — Stage 1: The despicable’s. Cheaters are the lowest of the low. “I would NEVER cheat.” “What were they thinking?” “How could they do that?” This stage is marked by profound puzzlement at the decisions of fellow men. Adultery is NOT an option. That’s a dirty word. “I’ll never cheat,” you proclaim too…

Men watch out! Hell hath no fury… — Don’t underestimate a woman scorned in adultery. Anger. It’s a killer. Bye bunny. It’s time to boil water. That attentive married man you slept with and wanted so badly? He dumped you. And now you are pissed. What happened exactly? A story as old as time. He was never going…

What does it have to do with cheating? — How do you minimize cognitive dissonance? Or, as I like to term it, the “I’m a monster syndrome” in adultery? Do you confess? Change your behavior? Stop cheating? Well, not really. What is cognitive dissonance? Simply put, it’s inconsistency. When we hold two thoughts that are inconsistent with one another. What does that have to do with cheating? Here are some examples:

When your love language helps or hinders you in relationships. — My husband and I have different love languages. His is “Acts of Service,” and mine is “Touch.” Well, I’m guessing. I have asked him to take the love language test online. “I’m not doing that stupid shit!” he answered. Well, ok, then. I’ve taken the book out of the library…

When lust and extramarital sex don’t mix well — Adultery and money don’t always mix well. Both are sticky. Does the man always pay? Or go do you go dutch? Switch it up? It’s one of the unspoken parts of cheating that’s tough to communicate. What’s the etiquette? Who has more discretionary funds? Who can hide it better? That’s the issue. It gets even more complicated when flying is…

This is a delicious tale of erotica — What is one of my favorite desserts? Oh, chocolate cake. Gooey, layered, with lots of frosting, chocolate cake. And cock. Has it happened together? No. But maybe it might. Let me spell it out. I buy this sinful chocolate creation and invite my lover over for dessert. …