“Hi there! Married neglected living the dream. Care to chat?” wrote SqueakyWheeel on the NaughtyFromNeglect sub on Reddit.

“Hotwife and Asian lady fetish?” I answered.

I looked at his user history: r/GoneWildAsians, r/cheatingwives, r/cuckhold, r/hotwife.

“Not exclusively. I like all women. But yes, hotwife piqued my interest. Well, I do fit your description, and I am looking for something ongoing, too. You sound definitely interesting.”

OH, I’m interesting. You have no idea who you are dealing with…

“The whole Asian fetish thing is a deal-breaker for me. I don’t get it, and I’m not Asian.” “What makes you think I…

“My wife is more important to me.”

WHAT? Who would say that? A guy who wants to jettison his affair, that’s who. He’s done.

Don’t you dare beg. No way. Pick up your chin and move on. It’s so easy to get under someone new. There are a bazillion men looking to get laid. Lick your wounds and heal. Then, try again when you get your sexy on.

“Go back to your safe life,” you should say. “I won’t miss you.” LIE. It will hurt like a bitch until it doesn’t anymore.

Don’t move the curl away from my eyes. Don’t look at me like you love…

I write about adultery. I get hate. Plenty of hate. I’m kind of used to it at this point. Reddit, especially, prepares you for a lifetime of nastiness, and I’ve been a member of r/adultery for a long time.

But I got this comment on my article, “The Seven Types of Cheater’s You Never Knew.”

It’s a doozy.

I don’t understand. You state, "I don’t need to feel like an unpaid prostitute", yet you fuck so many men, and claim you need the sex? Why not stick to ONE man, and have a lot of sex with him?? As a…

I’m looking for a local lover, again. I wrote an ad from r/naughtyfromneglect on Reddit this past weekend. I got my first vaccination and I’d like another one (of the meat variety). Yeah, I know…I should really stop.

“BE MY SHOT IN THE ARM” I wrote.

Was that too much to ask? Oh, no it wasn’t. The men were ready, so ready.

Right now, I’m in a man avalanche.

Seriously. I have so many responses. I’m answering as many as I can, and I’m getting serious carpal tunnel in my thumbs from texting on my tiny phone keyboard.

It’s like a mad frenzy of Moderna-fueled madness out there! Or Pfizer-fucking. Take your pick. Men hanging off every virtual tree branch looking for an affair.

“I’m also one shot in and awaiting my second…

We’re not all the same…

We all have different motivations to drive us to “affairing.”

I see you.

In my time as a cheater and writing about this lifestyle, I’ve seen many different species of an adulterer. Which one are you?

The Romantic’s:

Looking for love. These are the ones that want the closeness and intimacy with another partner. The good-morning hottie texts. The “Goodnight, baby’s.” The I-just-need-to-see-your-face pics.

“I want to share everything with you,” lovers.

These are the men I look for. I rarely find them. Where are they? Usually trapped in loveless marriages suffering soundlessly. When they decide to…

These are my most viewed articles:

1. Why I Cheat on My Husband and I Don’t Plan to Stop (this one was so hard to write, took months of redo’s)
2. Lifting The Curtains Behind the Fantasy of the Cheating Lover (Fearless she Wrote accepted this article and I felt so proud having tried time and time again to get published there)
3. MasterClass for Baby Adulterers (I giggled maniacally writing this one)
4. Cake Eaters of Adultery (my first article for The Medium and still one of my faves)
5. Writing a Profile for Ashley Madison for Men (a no-brainer article for me)
6. Is…

Ok, peeps. Those who follow me, I’m not the type you bring home to mama. I lie like it’s my job, and it kinda is right now in a super weird way with writing.

I’m a GOOD liar. My skills are top-notch.

This doesn’t say much about my likability or pathology, but it is what it is. I’m gonna share some tips.

Tip #1

Be a sociopath. It’s so simple, really. Don’t give a shit about anyone else but yourself. Remember to look out for number one. That’s you. It’s not like you ever forget.

Tip #2

Pretend to care. Couch all concern with…

“I’m thinking about dipping a toe.”
“I can’t get it off my mind.”
“I think I’m ready.”

Are you really ready to cheat?

I’m going to be blunt — if you are questioning yourself, you aren’t ready. Nope. You are on the fence.

Not until this is the last option. And, I mean LAST. The one final trigger that will detonate your life. Are you ready for that? The stakes are high. You have to be at a point where this “lifestyle” is the only choice left. For your sanity. For your self-esteem. For you.

And if it all blows…