I’ve heard them all, I’m sure you have, too… — 1. I love my wife deeply, but she’s too vanilla. Real meaning — I have some crazy kinks I’m trying to get satisfied by some strange on the side. Examples: “I like women’s feet.” “Oh, really?” I respond. I can dig a guy worshipping my feet. Ain’t gonna happen anywhere else in my life, that’s for sure. “I like pedicures. I…

When adultery isn’t appealing anymore — When do you decide that you’ve had enough? No more lying and cheating. You’re tired. Worn out. Do you take your secrets to the grave? Do you talk to a therapist? Do you come clean to your spouse? Wait a minute, you think. Where did you put Monalisa? Who has…

Let me tell you when I knew… — “I’m thinking about dipping a toe.” “I can’t get it off my mind.” “I think I’m ready.” Are you really ready to cheat? I’m going to be blunt — if you are questioning yourself, you aren’t ready. Nope. You are on the fence. Not until this is the last option. And, I mean LAST. The one…

Revealing as little as possible… — On my birthday, I decided to do an “about me.” So quaint, I thought. All these nice writers telling the 100 million average monthly readers about themselves in earnest tones. Why they are special. Why they write. Why we should read them. Nope. Not me. This is the ANTI version…

Why married guys are so grateful — Most married men are damn appreciative. “My wife never went near my dick.” “She never would swallow.” “Gag reflex,” she said. “I put up with that bullshit for way too long.” My affair partner was no different. He loved that I loved to give blowjobs. I heard his hearty moans of approval and words of encouragement. …

Five Crucial Steps in Adultery Land to Let Go — Self-proclaimed dummy here! I wanted to share some insights as someone just starting to get over a long-term, emotionally charged affair, I wanted to share some insights. These are five crucial steps to letting go: Grieve You need to grieve your loss to be able to move forward. Feel your feelings. Listen to songs that remind you of them…

When breasts are the least of your problems — Most of us are probably more self-conscious about this than we should be. If you have saggy boobs and that turns a guy off, then he’s not worthy of having access to them. Simple really. Every guy has a little boy inside of him that thinks BOOBS!!!! and then thanks…

What sexual desire does to a woman. — What one man wrote about his affair partner: I knew you before you were married. I lusted for you then and, of course, now. I have watched you change from our years together. From a woman with no confidence to a woman who is proud of her body and her…

Should you throw stones at glass houses? — Before I ever cheated, I judged. “God, what is wrong with them!” “How could they do that!” And, “That’s so low.” Now I know. I have felt the fire. Until you find yourself deeply dissatisfied in your own marriage, you don’t understand the pain. You become depressed. Try staring into the abyss of an unhappy existence for the next 30 or 40 years and…