Backsliding To an Ex Lover
It’s so easy to hook up again
How many of us have backslid into the waiting arms of their ex affair partner?
Why?
Because it was familiar?
Still had feelings?
Couldn’t find someone else?
We know starting the search all over again isn’t fun. IT SUCKS. This is why endings are especially brutal in adultery land. You can’t openly grieve about your loss, AND you have to face the uphill battle of looking for a needle in a haystack yet again.
Who has a strict NO TAKEBACKS policy?
Not many of us who are fucking out of network. We get what we can get. It’s begging for scraps usually.
“Are you sure you don’t want to stop by?” my ex has written to me on our secret app. Code for “I’ll fuck you so good if you haven’t forgotten.”
I’m not that lonely, dude.
I’ve got my trusty fingers and Pornhub to keep me company. I don’t need your mind games and lousy erectile dysfunction. I remember the bad stuff quite vividly. How many times I had questioned why I was fucking your sorry ass.
“Baby, I can’t,” he’d say when he couldn’t get it up.
It took all my willpower not to scream, “USE A TOY, GOD DAMMIT! OR I’M DONE!”
I’m here for sexual satisfaction. I’m not doling out charity pussy.
IF you do backslide (and I forgive you, we’ve all been there at some point or another), you immediately remember why it ended. You get AP remorse.
“Why oh why did I let myself sleep with him?” you sigh. “What was I thinking?”
Oh, I was thinking with my pussy.
That’s it.
“I’ll communicate more. I miss you. I will treat you right,” your ex wrote. And you, in your infinite wisdom, believed him.
Hmmm. You should be skeptical. Trust me on this. I’ve been through this wringer a few times.
It’s easier to slide on a pole you already know than to find a new one.
Your ex is comfortable and a known entity. Which makes re-starting your affair too damn easy.
It’s best to BLOCK, BLOCK, and more BLOCKING when you are done with each other. Yet, hope flickers that you might get some of your needs met the more prolonged and desperate you become when looking for a new affair partner.
Your horniness knows no bounds. You start thinking about your ex.
“He wasn’t that bad.…”
“I recall we had good times.”
“Sometimes, we just worked!”
Then you rationalize some more. “This is just a short-term fix until I find someone new.” They are convenient.
Convenient is not love affair material. It’s more like a side piece. Or friends with benefits. It’s shallow. You’ll regret it.
(Back away from your phone…)
“This is just sex, so you know.”
“I can’t do more, to be clear.”
“Are we on the same page?”
You try your darndest to be clear and upfront with your ex. Unfortunately, your affair partner becomes more of an outlet than a connection.
Having someone vs. no one.
That’s what it boils down to.
How many of us have backslid into the waiting arms of their ex affair partner?
Tell me in the comments! I want the sad, sordid truth! Fess up!
If you liked this one, read my erotic nostaglia for an ex lover here:
And meeting for lunch with another ex:
