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The Icing On the Cake Lover
When your affair partner is a cake eater
Who would love to be the icing on someone’s cake?
Not me.
Why? Because the cake out there is dry and tasteless. And the icing is the yummy part. I always save the sugary frosting for the last bite.
In adultery, cake eaters are perfectly happy at home. They have sex and a good partner. So why are they stepping out?
It could be a particular kink to be fulfilled. Or a selfish desire for more. Or the thrills of “getting away with it.” Anything really. There is no hole to fill metaphorically — only a physical one.
Cake eaters argue that they “live in the present” and “take advantage of opportunities that come along.” They aren’t out to “catch feelings.” Instead, this lifestyle is to make our “lives more enjoyable.”
And I understand. I shouldn’t judge. I’m an adulterer.
And I’d be pretty thrilled if I had a home life that wasn’t sad. Yet, I’m cheating for a reason — out of a real need. I’d have zero sex if I didn’t cheat.
Are the best affair partners the ones who have their glasses overflowing? Who have plenty of cake? The ones who need another drink? Or a…
