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You Cheated on Your Partner… Should You Tell Them?
With 57k views, this article is #1. From the brilliant Marie Murphy, Ph.D., she thoughtfully analyzes this “lifestyle” and its repercussions.
She offers clear, sane advice coming from years as a counselor.
“GET REALLY CLEAR ON WHY YOU MIGHT CHOOSE TO TELL YOUR PARTNER YOU CHEATED. MAKE A LIST OF YOUR REASONS, AND MAKE IT EXHAUSTIVE.”
Write it out, she recommends.
“Cheating does not make you a terrible person. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Even if you’ve done something you don’t feel great about, you can take responsibility for your actions without relinquishing your self-worth,” she explains.
She ends with, “As strange as it might sound, cheating on someone you care about can turn into a tremendous opportunity for clarifying what you want and what’s right for you — in your romantic relationship(s), and in your life as a…
